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We’ve been talking a lot about mindfulness in marriage lately but now it’s time to talk about what to do when our spouse isn’t mindful and isn’t present. I don’t know about you guys but there are few times in…
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Oh criticism, where should we begin? I don’t think I need to put much effort in to convince you that criticism has some huge negative consequences. I think it’s also fair to assume that we’ve all experienced our fair share…
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Conflict is one of those things in relationships that no one likes to talk about or acknowledge that it exists. We skirt around it in conversations with friends and we fear the judgments of others if they knew that we…
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Have you ever been in a fight and at the end of it the other person says something like, “Why can’t you just say sorry?!” It’s a legitimate question. Why can’t you? In many cases, I think it’s just that…
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How do you tell your love story? When you think about your marriage and the history of your relationship what comes to mind? When someone asks you how the two of you met, what do you say? In other words,…
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Over the years, and within my role as a therapist in my regular job, I’ve learned that one of the greatest things we can individually bring to conflict management is our awareness that we need a break. In my previous…
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Conflict is inevitable in any relationship and to be perfectly honest, that’s okay. While no one actually likes conflict it is necessary. When two people are in a relationship they bring different thoughts, opinions, experiences, hopes, and dreams and sometimes…
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A common story I hear from couples that are going through a rough patch is how “horrible” the other person is. They both say some variation of how the other person “never helps out” and how they “never appreciate anything.” …
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The Research Behind What Makes Marriages Work vs. Struggling Marriages Several years back when I was studying psychology during my undergrad I was required to read a book called Blink by Malcom Gladwell. It’s a very interesting read that I…
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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone say a variation of these sentences. “We just grew apart.” “We don’t like anything the same anymore.” “It’s like they don’t know me.” “We just want different things.” “I just…
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